Monday, September 23, 2024

Saturday Morning E.R.

Last Saturday, September 14, Brian and I were both happily working on our separate projects while Aubrey enjoyed sleeping in late.  I was listening to a podcast and pressing shirts.  I was set up in the kitchen facing the family room  because the night before Brian and I had watched a show while I made shirts.  I was trying to stay on top of the 360 shirts that were ordered for our upcoming Stake Relief Society Just Serve activity.  

Brian was in the garage working on a couple of  projects.  He had some rounds on the kitchen table with the local high school name and mascot cut out.  He was cutting more wood in the garage for some storage containers he wanted to build.  

Suddenly, Brian burst into the house and yelled, "ERIN!  I NEED YOU.”

“We have to go.  We have to go NOW.  It's bad."

Well, luckily I had just changed out of my pajamas.  I looked around and slipped on a pair of Brian’s slides, grabbed my purse, more towels for bandages, and we left.

Brian had his left hand in a towel pressed to his body and there was lots of blood and I could tell he was in so much pain and it was awful and I felt frantic and I felt helpless but I stayed calm on the outside and he was hurting so badly and the ER department was incredibly slow and Tanner and my dad gave him a priesthood blessing and the doctor in ER said he couldn't save his fingers and we had to be transferred by ambulance to a better hospital and I sent out texts and called Brian's parents and contacted an excellent hand surgeon from the Stake that I met one time and he said he could come to the new hospital and work on Brian and they couldn't give him much for pain because they weren't sure what procedures were going to be done and he had to soak his hand in hydrogen peroxide which was excruciating and my Bri was hurting so badly and we finally were transferred to MCH emergency room and Britney brought me lunch and shoes and warmer clothes and I was helpless and all of the protocols at the two hospitals were extremely cumbersome and it took way too long and finally we were moved to the second floor for surgery and the surgeon told Brian and I not to worry that he would take care of his fingers and he would be fine and then they wheeled him into surgery and then the surgeon came out before he started but after Brian was sedated and told me and my dad that it was much worse than he thought and he might need to amputate the middle finger and then we waited and waited and then the surgeon came out and said both were put back together but both index and middle fingers might need to be amputated and time would tell and I felt like I was living holding my breath for hours and hours and I finally got to see Brian and his pain was under control and we were put into a room and things finally felt a little more stable.

That is how our calm, productive, Saturday morning turned into not much production, pain, stress, lots of prayers, emergency surgery and a four day hospital stay.

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A couple of things I just want to jot down for history's sake.  (and I will spare everyone the gruesome pictures for history's sake!)

Saturday timeline, September 14th:

10:30ish ORMC ER 

12:30-transferred to MCH ER

2:10- Surgery

3:50- Out of surgery

How Brian hurt his hand.  He was cutting wood on a table saw in the garage, but it wasn't the saw that did the damage to his fingers, it was the wood.  He was cutting a 2x4 into a 2x2 and it was reaching the end of the cut.  He put two fingers up to push it aside so it could drop where he wanted it to.  The saw hit a knot and the wood kicked back and slammed into his two fingers.  

This text I sent to the group when we were in the first ER and he was having to soak his hand in hydrogen peroxide.  Soaking his fingers was excruciating, but he was amazingly in control and just gritting his teeth and groaning and muttering this under his breath: 

"Crap.


I'm going to start saying dirty words.


Mud.


This sucks.


I don't like x-ray people."


And to a machine that was beeping every 15 seconds: "QUIET."  and then he added "Please."

He is hurting so badly, and I love him so much."


My group text to our kids after he got out of surgery.

3:52 update to kids: "He is out of surgery.  It is his pointer and middle finger on his left hand.  It was worse than the surgeon thought once he saw it in person.  He was not able to repair the tendons.  Brian will stay overnight and the doctor will check on him tomorrow.  He thinks the index finger still has some blood flow and might not have but thinks the middle finger (and maybe the pointer) will probably need to be amputated about half way down. 

We found out from reading the hospital records that his index finger had been amputated 70% and his middle finger 85%.  Also, the top of both fingers had been shattered/splintered and the middle of both fingers had been broken.

Also, his overnight hospital stay turned into two more nights because his heartbeat was erratic and an echocardiogram was ordered.  He hadn't been feeling any pain or shortness of breath, but his Apple watch had told him a few times in the past month that his resting heart rate had dropped to 40 a few times.  Because it was the weekend, the test wasn't run until Monday and read until Tuesday.  They ran one additional heart test on Tuesday afternoon and then finally sent him home to follow up with a cardiologist in two week.  

Mr. Independent....preparing to brush his teeth

So happy to be going home

As of today's appointment, Wednesday Sept 23rd, Dr. Babbel was very positive about Brian's pointer finger but still cautious about the middle finger.  He was pleased that the middle finger had some blood flow and clotting but said it could still go either way.

We are so grateful for the many texts, calls, visits and especially prayers.  We are praying that his fingers will continue to heal. 

Friday, September 20, 2024

Google

Several years ago when Brinley would search her name on the internet, a silly picture of her dressed up for nerd day at theater camp would pop up.  

July 2012 with her cousin Stevie

She was not a fan.  Parker didn't mind what popped up for him.  I think it was a sports post from his elementary days.  I don't know why out of the hundreds of entries and pictures those two posts would be what showed when they googled their names.  Well, eventually, for other reasons, I ended up changing the blog to private so it would not be as available online for random people to read.  

Yesterday, I changed the settings on the blog back to searchable, and I went to see if it would pop up when I googled my name.  The blog did not, but these two things did: an old resume and my Pinterest account.  I think they are kind of fun.

The resume.  I was asked by Coach Nieman, the kids' elementary coach who had since taken a district position, to participate in the SHAC Committee.  It is a health committee in our school district that is made up of all sorts of ECISD administration, a couple of community members and a couple of parents and focusses on the health and well being of the students.

I remember being in the thick of parenting with four kiddos (10, 12, 14 & 16) at three different schools.  We were involved in things like early morning seminary, choir, football, basketball, advanced classes, dance, gymnastics and who knows what else.   He wanted me to send a resume to apply.  A resume!  What?  I couldn't even fathom what I would put on that resume.  

Well, I missed the first years application deadline due to the craziness of all things back to school, watching my sister's children while she went out of town, church responsibilities and a waive of sickness spread through our group.  No time to even think of coming up with a resume.

He reached out again the next year.  I applied and was voted into the group.  I was part of SHAC for two years, and it was a good experience.  It was helpful for me to see how much the administration cared for the students.  It was nice to have a voice in the students' wellness.  Each meeting had a different focus and two things I remember going over that stood out to me were those struggling with gender identity issues and finding a place were they felt safe on their campuses and gun safety.  We, as a committee, made a huge impact by presenting to the board the issue with our campus police officers having a different radio system that was not compatible with the Odessa Police Department.  A large portion of money was approved to purchase new radios for each our school officers, and I felt that was a big step in addressing the future safety of our students, teachers and staff.

Well, back the the resume...  Apparently Coach Neiman used an online platform for his meetings and this was uploaded, so that is why it popped up last night when I googled my name.  I remember sweating bullets in putting this together.  What would I, as a mother and homemaker, put on this resume?  

It's kind of blurry but under homemaker I listed 

  • provide love and direction to children in the home 
  • prepare nutritional meals regularly 
  • available each afternoon to listen to children's day and help with homework as needed 
  • in charge of coordinating carpools, assigning chores, and trying to keep chaos to a minimum.
Reading it today makes my heart happy.  What a life resume!  I'm very grateful to Brian for always working hard to provide so I could be home during our children's growing up years.



The other thing that popped up on google when I searched my name was my Pinterest.  I am cracking up because those who know me know I love dessert, and apparently it's evident to anyone who does not know me.


I have been amazingly good at avoiding sugar for the past 6 weeks, so maybe there is hope for my personal health and well being on the horizon.

Wednesday, September 4, 2024

Labor Day Weekend

 Labor Day Taco Villa Monday on Monday at Rosas

We had a nice, rainy weekend.  After a scorching end to summer, the temperature finally dropped below 100°and I went for two long walks at UTPB.  The Bright Star memorial dedicated to those wounded or killed in a mass shooting five years ago (see my original post here) was opened to the public.   The memorial is on UTPB land, and I stopped by it on my walk.  It is truly beautiful, and I think will bring even more peace, unity and healing to our community.









Aubrey was gone from Thursday night to Saturday night at a volleyball tournament in Kerrville.  Brian was able to work on cabinets for the spare bathroom, and enjoy some football.  Holidays don't affect my schedule much, but I enjoyed having those two around more.  

We enjoyed some Kaide time and having Tanner, Erin & Kaide over for family dinner on Sunday.  

This boy loves going to the garden to pick and eat the tomatoes.

He is fascinated by Alexa and is really try hard to get her to do everything he knows she can do.  (play music, turn on and off the fan, turn off and on the lights.)  A little video of him talking to Alexa.  I love how he is using sign language to communicate (again?),  talking to Alexa and then taking matters into his own hands when she doesn't turn on the fan.

After dinner we headed over to the Birds for our Sunday evening gathering.  The older boys/young adults and Lincoln (6) played an intense game of baseball.  Here is a little video from their game.  Tanner came in a happy, sweaty mess which was pretty cute.  Brit, Ang and I went for a mile walk (my fave-wish we did it every Sunday night.)  Then we all just hung out and visited.

I had to snap this picture of Erin completing a complicated box puzzle that Adam Vore was struggling to do.  We have to flex on him whenever possible because he is so dang smart.

I helped with my mom for about an hour on Sunday and Monday because there was no caregiver.  She was busy.  I love my dad's willingness to just let my mom do whatever she wants as long as she is safe.  It makes for some misplaced and lost items and busy afternoons, but she is in her house doing what she wants to do.


We had a very well attended Taco Villa Monday which was a lot of fun.  I think we had everyone in town except for Quetta, Kerry's gf  who was at work, and Tanner, EFG, & Kaide who were hanging out with  Erin's family.  It was dumping rain outside so we all lingered longer than usual hoping for a lull that never happened.  Eventually we all just made a run for it and got soaked.

I love all of the micro groups that emerged after the meal.  There was lots of rotating, but here are a few snapshots.
Grandpa Vore and Brian

An all girl group!: Ang, Gram, Ella w/ Gracie & Charlotte
Brit, Braddock, Adam Bird, Megan & Adam Vore
Gracie & Elle
Chris/Grandpa Vore (Jr.)/Uncle Chris playing football with a folded up receipt.
Gram LOVES the babies.  She just lights up and starts cooing at them.  It's really sweet.

me & Mom/Gram

Dad/Great Grandpa holding Olivia

Holden w/ his baby girl Olivia

Lastly, Aubrey, Maiya hung out Monday afternoon, and among other things, made two kinds of cookies.  Then we saw that it was supposed to quit raining and made a go at the fair to take advantage of dollar day.  Although it was nice to get out, it was also kind of silly for us to try because nothing much was open. 

Very wet girls. 
After we dropped Maiya off, Aub took a hot shower, and I pulled out my heated slippers.  We were both happy to be warm and dry again.
My Warmies...10/10 recommend

Overall, we had a restful and relaxing Labor day weekend.

Tuesday, September 3, 2024

Christmas Greetings from 2007!

Recently I added some of our past Christmas cards to my memories section on Family Search.  It's crazy and fun reading about our lives 17 years ago.